TIP #15: Overcoming Common Obstacles

Every journey has its challenges, and your Mosaic Memoir is no exception. While establishing a routine is important (and Tip #1 can help you out with that), other hurdles can pop up along the way. Whether it’s the dreaded writer’s block, tight schedules, or waning motivation, these challenges can hinder progress. But don't worry—you're not alone. Let’s explore some common obstacles and strategies for navigating them, ensuring your memoir-writing experience remains positive and fulfilling.

1. WRITER’S BLOCK

  • THE CHALLENGE: Staring at a blank page with no words in sight.

  • THE STRATEGY: Give yourself permission to write imperfectly. Start by jotting down whatever comes to mind, even if it feels disconnected. Free writing or mind mapping can help break through the mental barriers. Also, revisit old photos, letters, or mementos to trigger memories and ideas.

2. TIME CONSTRAINTS

  • THE CHALLENGE: Life gets busy, and it can be hard to find dedicated time for writing.

  • THE STRATEGY: Identify small pockets of time in your day. Even 10 to 15 minutes of writing can make a difference over time. Consider setting a timer or working on shorter sections when your schedule is tight. Block off specific days and times on your calendar for writing, treating them as non-negotiable appointments with yourself.

3. LOW MOTIVATION/BURN-OUT

  • THE CHALLENGE: Losing the spark that inspired you to begin this project.

  • THE STRATEGY: Remind yourself of the reasons why you started. Focus on the legacy you’re creating and the significance of preserving your memories. When motivation is low, return to smaller, lighter writing tasks or take breaks to recharge. Be kind to yourself and acknowledge that it's okay to pause when needed.

4. PERFECTIONISM

  • THE CHALLENGE: The desire to get every word just right can slow down or halt progress.

  • THE STRATEGY: Remember that your first draft is just that—a draft. Allow yourself to write freely, knowing you can revise and refine later. Focus on getting your thoughts and stories down without worrying about polish. Perfectionism can hinder creativity, so embrace the imperfections that make your story unique.

5. EMOTIONAL OVERWHELM

  • THE CHALLENGE: Revisiting painful memories or emotionally charged experiences can feel daunting.

  • THE STRATEGY: If certain memories are difficult to confront, give yourself permission to take breaks. Work on lighter topics in between heavier ones, and don’t feel pressured to force the process. If needed, share your feelings with a trusted friend, support group, or therapist to help you navigate emotional moments. Healing through writing is powerful but should be done with care.

6. FEAR OF JUDGMENT

  • THE CHALLENGE: Worrying about how your memoir will be perceived by others.

  • THE STRATEGY: Write for yourself first. This is your story, and how you choose to tell it is entirely up to you. Focus on your truth, and release the fear of how others might interpret it. You can always edit later for an external audience, but initially, your memoir is a space for self-expression.

7. INCONSISTENT ENERGY LEVELS

  • THE CHALLENGE: Feeling tired or lacking energy to write.

  • THE STRATEGY: Listen to your body and plan your writing sessions during times when you feel most energized. For some, this might be in the morning; for others, later in the day. Don't push yourself to write when you're exhausted. Instead, adjust your schedule and try smaller writing tasks when energy is low.

8. PROCRASTINATION

  • THE CHALLENGE: Putting off writing in favor of other activities.

  • THE STRATEGY: Break your writing into smaller, more manageable tasks. Set short-term goals, and reward yourself for completing them. Sometimes, just starting is the hardest part, so commit to writing for five minutes. You’ll often find that once you start, it’s easier to keep going.

9. DIFFICULTY ORGANIZING THOUGHTS

  • THE CHALLENGE: Struggling to structure your memories and ideas coherently.

  • THE STRATEGY: Don’t worry about perfect order right away. Write your stories as they come to you, then organize them later. Use outlines, bullet points, or sticky notes to rearrange sections as you see fit. Consider keeping a journal specifically for brainstorming and organizing thoughts.

10. OVERWHELMED BY THE SCOPE

  • THE CHALLENGE: The memoir feels like an enormous task that’s hard to manage.

  • THE STRATEGY: Break it down into smaller chunks. Instead of thinking about the entire memoir, focus on one chapter, memory, or topic at a time. Celebrate each small victory, and keep reminding yourself that it’s okay to move at your own pace. Every word you write brings you closer to the finish line.

11. ISOLATION

  • THE CHALLENGE: Feeling alone in the writing process, especially if it’s a solo endeavor.

  • THE STRATEGY: Seek connection with others who are on a similar journey. Join a memoir writing group, attend workshops, or participate in online forums where you can share experiences, ask for feedback, and stay motivated through community support.

12. LOSS OF FOCUS

  • THE CHALLENGE: Distractions, both internal and external, pulling you away from writing.

  • THE STRATEGY: Create a distraction-free environment. Turn off notifications, set boundaries with those around you, and choose a quiet space for writing. If your mind tends to wander, practice mindfulness techniques to help you regain focus and stay present during your writing sessions.

FINAL THOUGHTS

Remember, consistency is key to crafting your Mosaic Memoir, but challenges are a natural part of the process. By acknowledging these obstacles and implementing strategies to overcome them, you’ll find that progress is possible, no matter the pace. Be patient with yourself, celebrate each small step forward, and trust that your memoir will unfold beautifully in time.

Mary Maymome-tips