TIP #12: Conducting Interviews With Grandparents
Grandparents are invaluable resources for capturing family history, as they hold a treasure trove of stories, experiences, and wisdom. Conducting interviews with them can add depth and richness to your memoir, creating a multi-generational narrative. Here’s a guide to help you gather these precious stories effectively.
PREPARE IN ADVANCE: Before the interview, spend some time preparing. Research your family history to frame your questions better. Create a list of topics you want to cover, such as childhood memories, significant life events, family traditions, and personal philosophies. This preparation will help you conduct a more focused and meaningful interview.
CREATE A COMFORTABLE ENVIRONMENT: Choose a quiet, comfortable setting for the interview where your grandparent feels at ease. This could be their home or a favorite outdoor spot. Ensure there are minimal distractions and that they feel relaxed and ready to share their stories.
USE OPEN-ENDED QUESTIONS: Ask open-ended questions that encourage detailed responses. Instead of yes/no questions, opt for ones that start with "how," "what," "why," and "can you describe." For example, "Can you describe your childhood home?" or "What was it like growing up during Civil Rights movement?"
BE AN ACTIVE LISTENER: Show genuine interest in their stories by listening attentively. Nod, make eye contact, and provide verbal affirmations like "I see," or "That sounds amazing." Avoid interrupting, even if you feel eager to ask follow-up questions. Active listening shows respect and encourages them to share more freely.
RECORD THE INTERVIEW: Recording the interview ensures you capture every detail accurately. Use a reliable audio or video recording device. Inform your grandparent about the recording and ensure they are comfortable with it. Having a recorded interview allows you to revisit their stories later and capture their exact words and emotions.
ENCOURAGE STORYTELLING: Grandparents often have a wealth of stories, some of which may not come out without a bit of prompting. Encourage storytelling by asking them to recount specific events or experiences. Use prompts like, "Tell me about a time when..." or "What was the most memorable event of your childhood?"
RESPECT THEIR PACE: Allow your grandparent to set the pace of the interview. They may need time to recall certain memories or might get emotional while sharing sensitive topics. Be patient and give them the space to express themselves without feeling rushed.
FOLLOW UP ON DETAILS: If a particular story or detail piques your interest, ask follow-up questions to explore it further. This can uncover additional layers and perspectives that enrich the narrative. For instance, if they mention a significant event, ask how it affected their life or shaped their views.
SHOW GRATITUDE: At the end of the interview, express your gratitude for their time and stories. Let them know how much their contributions mean to you and how they will enhance your memoir. A heartfelt thank-you can strengthen your bond and leave them feeling appreciated.At the end of the interview, express your gratitude for their time and stories. Let them know how much their contributions mean to you and how they will enhance your memoir. A heartfelt thank-you can strengthen your bond and leave them feeling appreciated.
Conducting interviews with your grandparents not only enriches your memoir but also creates a lasting legacy of their stories. These interviews capture the essence of their experiences, preserving them for future generations and adding a profound depth to your family's Mosaic Memoir.